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You described me in a nutshell. It took YEARS to find and come into my own. I don't know what happened to me in the 70s and 80s. I was definitely self-medicating from betrayal and loss of a dream in the making.

When I finally did seek conventional therapy it didn't work for me. But that wasn't until I hit my late 40s.

Finally in my late 50s somehow I came out of my life-long self-loathing funk. It was through deep introspection and having the courage to leave a 19-year dysfunctional toxic relationship.

Today I live my life in appreciating moments and they not to live or think about the past and all the time lost to what I describe as mental illness. I'm proof there is healing from it. And from your article you are too. Great piece.

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Thanks, Patti and I'm glad to hear you overcame your own difficulties. I rarely think of those dark days; fortunately I had three wonderful children and families (both mine and his) who loved and supported us. It took leaving and another eight years to truly heal. I'm a stronger person for it, as I suspect you are too. Cheers to us! (And finally living a healthier, authentic, I-know-who-I-am life!)

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