I had to read this several times before responding.Self-reflection isn't fun. Lately I've had to do some serious reality checks. And I'm not proud of some of my behavior. I'm a work in progress.
Self-reflection is tough for everyone (nobody’s perfect) but especially for those of us who lacked a true sense of ourselves. I’m writing about that next. Thanks for sharing.
I love everything about this post. “A closer look at these complaints reveals that the problem isn’t the job, relationship, or lack of time. It’s the person who isn’t willing to make the necessary changes to resolve the problem.” Through therapy and writing I'm examining the whys of why I behaved in certain ways, dated certain people (often unhealthy relationships and an emotionally abusive marriage), and also how I overcame things — and examined my culpability in accepting those things for myself. I'm glad you're on your path to healing too. 🫶🏻🥰
Those of us who experienced abusive relationships lacked good boundaries. If we look hard the reason is usually found in childhood and how we were raised. While we’re ultimately responsible for our choices, it helps to understand why we made them when other people chose a different path. Thanks for your comment!
Lovely post. I can feel the pain. At one time or another, we have all felt that pain; pointed the finger at someone else or at a situation and realized much later that that wasn't the answer. Grace is always there, sometimes just out of sight around the corner, but always there. Letting go of our pain does not come easily, but that's when Grace appears and pulls us back from drowning.
I had to read this several times before responding.Self-reflection isn't fun. Lately I've had to do some serious reality checks. And I'm not proud of some of my behavior. I'm a work in progress.
Self-reflection is tough for everyone (nobody’s perfect) but especially for those of us who lacked a true sense of ourselves. I’m writing about that next. Thanks for sharing.
I love everything about this post. “A closer look at these complaints reveals that the problem isn’t the job, relationship, or lack of time. It’s the person who isn’t willing to make the necessary changes to resolve the problem.” Through therapy and writing I'm examining the whys of why I behaved in certain ways, dated certain people (often unhealthy relationships and an emotionally abusive marriage), and also how I overcame things — and examined my culpability in accepting those things for myself. I'm glad you're on your path to healing too. 🫶🏻🥰
Those of us who experienced abusive relationships lacked good boundaries. If we look hard the reason is usually found in childhood and how we were raised. While we’re ultimately responsible for our choices, it helps to understand why we made them when other people chose a different path. Thanks for your comment!
Lovely post. I can feel the pain. At one time or another, we have all felt that pain; pointed the finger at someone else or at a situation and realized much later that that wasn't the answer. Grace is always there, sometimes just out of sight around the corner, but always there. Letting go of our pain does not come easily, but that's when Grace appears and pulls us back from drowning.
Thank you for your compassionate insight into a struggle many people experience.
Taking responsibility for one's role in what they are complaining about/